After 2 months of hard work.
Think I would have immediately felt great about my progress?
As I was laying there testing my tight hip flexors, my first thoughts were…
“This feels SO TIGHT.”
“I still don’t feel flexible.”
“This feels hard.”
I was comparing my experience *in the moment*…
….to some magical ideal off in the horizon I’d made up. An ideal where I’d easily lean my back onto the floor and my muscles would feel all loose and relaxed.
Then my mobility coach emailed me this side-by-side photo comparison, showing me where I was 2 months ago.
I had momentarily compared myself to my future ideal, not my past reality. Oops.
When you compare yourself to your future ideal (or to what OTHERS can do) you will always, ALWAYS fall short.
On the other hand, when you pull out your measuring stick and analyze where you’re at COMPARED TO WHERE YOU WERE, you will INSTANTLY see your progress.
See, for the most part, human beings are pretty shit at being able to manually gauge their own progress.
We uplevel, upgrade, improve…
…then we quickly normalize.
Happens to me.
Even happens when we KNOW about it.
Even happens to my MindFix clients. (They have life-changing breakthroughs they’ve NEVER had — yet feel unfulfilled until we point highlight where they WERE when they started—filled with self-criticism, not feeling not good enough, etc. THEN they are able to grasp the magnitude of their transformations.)
Here’s the thing.
Most people are constantly staring at the HORIZON (and if you’ve ever tried walking toward a horizon you know that with every step you take forward, the horizon takes a same-size step back).
… the horizon is not real; it’s an ideal.
It is LITERALLY impossible for ANYONE to reach. (Sorry, flat-Earthers — I’ll totally stand corrected if you let me know when you get to a horizon though.)
In relentlessly locking your focus onto ONLY your horizon, you forfeit the easy opportunity to swivel around and look BEHIND you to absorb and appreciate the incredible progress you’ve made (that everyone else behind you of course sees and points to in amazement).
Your horizon is a beautiful concept that ORIENTS you toward the future you dream of—BUT if you can’t break your gaze and look behind you regularly to measure your progress….
…you will ALWAYS feel at least partially empty/defeated…
REGARDLESS of how much you accomplish.
In other words,
those who never measure backwards….
…are doomed to uplevel, improve, and succeed….
BUT NEVER FEEL LIKE THEY ARE.* 🙁
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