I’ve been crying. A whole lot, lately.
I’ve been grieving the loss of someone important to me.
When I was younger, I would have thought my crying was an indicator that something was wrong with me — and that I needed to suck it up and STOP.
Now, I recognize my sadness as a healthy human emotion. There’s a part of me that, underneath it all, late at night, as I curl up on on the couch and let the tears flow, feels good when I cry. Feels relief. Feels catharsis. Feels healthy.
This part of me knows that I feel the loss so deeply because I loved deeply.
And the tears are okay.
A healthier relationship to emotions is one of the most important “side effects” MindFix work has delivered to me and my clients over the years.
I never would have expected nor asked for it.
I never realized that being able to access, feel, and express emotions was one of the most critical elements required for true wellness – and that issues like alexithymia (an inability to feel/express emotions) cause deep pain and suffering within individuals and families alike.
So while heart emojis and hugs are accepted while I grieve this loss, there’s no need to feel sorry for me as the tears stream down my face some nights.
I’m perfectly okay.
I’m just a human missing another human, and feeling all the feels, just as I’m wired to do.
It’s actually much healthier than numbing out, pretending I’m not hurting, or not feeling anything at all. That’s suppression, and it’s incredibly harmful. More on that another day, soon.
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